The Sanctuary
A Feminine Presence Collective
A cozy haven for women who want to feel more alive in their bodies, bring beauty back to daily life, and sink into exquisite presence through the senses
There are many things we humans want.
Love, success, belonging, beauty.
But at the heart of everything we want is to truly be here.
To feel alive and awake.
To be present with our people.
To be connected to our bodies.
To live from purpose, rather than a checklist.
Presence is the key to actually being in our lives.
Presence is the one thing we humans look back on—and wish we had tasted more fully.
So why not start at the end?
Instead of chasing the next version of new, or more, or now…
Why not focus on the one thing we always wish we had more of?
Presence is the one thing that has the power to change everything else.
For women especially, there is a deep need to reclaim our sense of presence.
• 75% of women report burnout at work (compared to 58% of men)
• 71% of all mental health leaves are taken by women
• Only 11% of women describe their relationship with their body as positive
• Women perform 2.5x more unpaid labor worldwide
• 4 out of 5 single parents are women
The world needs feminine presence like dry soil needs rain.
And yet, why do practices that bring presence, always feel like more work?
Most mindfulness practices are built for and by masculine systems in mind.
But for feminine beings, presence doesn’t come from mastering stillness or hours of silence.
It comes from movement, sensation, connection, and beauty.
And that’s exactly the playground you’ll find in The Sanctuary.
The Feminine Path To Presence Is Different
Most mainstream presence practices, while powerful, are designed by and for masculine nervous systems, and center masculine values:
Stillness. Silence. Discipline. Detachment.
Feminine systems literally speak a different language.
For feminine folks, presence comes from our deep connection with–not detachment from–life through the senses.
Aroma, touch, taste…
Dancing, art, expression…
Style, tea, sensory pleasure…
These are our portals back to the moment, our prayers in motion, and our road home to the sacred within ourselves.
While rigorous solitary practices have their place, feminine presence blooms through connection, through the senses, and through shared life experiences.
For us, presence isn’t found by rising above the body—but by sinking more deeply into it.
The Sanctuary is community that approaches presence practice from a sensual, feminine lens.
Instead of analyzing what’s wrong, we weave in what feels good.
Instead of forcing our minds to think differently, we move the body and the thoughts naturally follow.
Instead of pressuring ourselves into self-care, we let it seduce us home.
We find the sacred in mascara and meditation.
We make our altar wherever we feel most alive.
The Sanctuary is a place to reimagine your relationship to presence, not as a way to get more done, but as a way to feel more alive, more relaxed, and more like yourself, everyday.
You belong here if:
You’re tired of living from the neck up
You crave more space and softness, but don’t want to drop out and live in a yurt
You’re into mindfulness, but often feel like you’re doing it wrong
You want more beauty, pleasure, and peace, but don’t want a 14-step morning routine to get it
And you want a life that feels:
Spacious, soft, and rooted in your body’s rhythm
Filled with more enjoyment, less optimzation
Like your feminine nature is something to celebrate and enjoy, not something you need to wrestle into a planner
Infused with daily rituals that remind you who you are
Anchored in self-trust, clear on what matters, and no longer chasing what doesn’t
Who Is The Sanctuary For?
Meet Mary
YOUR SANCTUARY GUIDE & CREATOR
Hello Beautiful Being!
I’m Mary Lofgren, creator of The Sanctuary. My career in the embodied arts spans over 22 years. I’m an award-winning certified Feminine Embodiment Coach, a licensed esthetician, and a certified intuitive movement facilitator many times over. I’m delighted that you are here, sniffing and sensing to see if The Sanctuary is right for you.
To help you discern if this is the place for you, here’s a glimpse into my story, and how the Sanctuary came to be.
I grew up very religious, in love with lace veils, incense, and the ever-present ache to be close to what we called God (what I now often call Love).
There was a strong foundation of spiritual connection within me from day one. But as I grew up, the stories about being born a woman making me inferior, untrustworthy, and inherently sinful, began to sink in.
So I learned to behave; to tuck in my desires, to starve my hungers, and to suppress my body's wisdom.
Later, I searched for the divine in yoga studios, retreats, and meditation centers. But even as wise and lovely as those places were, I still felt like something about me was always spilling out the sides.
Me as a kiddo playing what I wanted to be the most when I grew up, a Priest!
Everything changed when I began to explore seeing my body as sacred, my pleasure as my compass, and beauty as my direct line to the divine.
When I began to see my body as trustworthy, I could finally see myself as trustworthy.
I became less afraid of the world, and began taking bolder risks.
I stopped chasing masculine goals I never truly wanted in the first place.
I began living in deeper, happier devotion to letting my heart love what it truly loves.
This shift allowed me to reclaim the most precious thing of all: the ability to feel alive and present in my body.
We can have all the success, beauty, and accomplishment in the world—but without presence, it slips through our fingers like water over stone.
It can turn a single raspberry into heaven’s gate, when all the striving in the world falls hollow.
It can turn a candlelit bath into a baptism.
Presence transforms hard walls into soft landings, and old patterns into new possibilities.
Join me, and let’s redefine the path to radiant, relaxed, rich presence in The Sanctuary.
The Sanctuary Path
How We Make Radiant Presence A Way of Life
We delight the senses daily as our portal to presence.
When you follow what delights you, and presence finds you naturally. Through a weekly rhythm of reminders and invitations, we weave enchantment, beauty and wonder back into your everyday.
We study the seasons and let nature set the pace.
The seasons show us a rhythm that is older and wiser than clocks and calendars. In The Sanctuary we regularly study and practice living in a seasonal rhythm, allowing nature teach us when to rest, when to bloom, when to root, and when to rise.
We practice presence by dancing with life, instead of detaching from it.
Sensation, emotion, and expression are not interruptions to presence — they are a portal to it. With our methods, practices and tools, you’ll learn how welcome and party with these parts of your nature, and dance with them fully.
We saturate our days with beauty.
A spritz of rosewater, a lit candle, a charming bud vase, favorite song - these tiny satin threads of beauty keep presence flowing and our spirits fed. Every practice we do, every email we send you, every cue and prompt is saturated in beauty, inspiring your spirit to softly come alive.
We anchor into the body to shift the mind.
Instead of trying to think our way into presence, we move, stretch, express and enjoy our way through the body. Movement, beauty, ritual and embodiment practices are just some of the ways we anchor into the body as our compass, our teacher, and most of all, our muse.
We weave in small daily shifts, one stitch at a time.
Instead of big overhauls and grand gestures, we trust that lasting change happens through the little things. The Sanctuary offers a sweet flow of simple, doable touches of beauty and presence that gently reshape how you feel, how you think, and how you move through each day.
“Every time I log in to The Sanctuary I remember how to be in my body.”
I find myself seducing beauty back into my life and, moving my body in ways it delights in. Allowing my intuition to speak through The Sanctuary practices has brought back pieces of myself I didn’t even know I missed.”
LEANN DAMERON
“I’ve reunited with pieces of myself I didn’t even know I missed.”
“I came to The Sanctuary tired of walking through a dulled version of life. I found a secret garden of delight for my inner child, and my senses have woken up. Allowing my intuition to speak has brought back pieces of myself I didn’t know I missed so much.
Remember who you were before the world told you who to be? Allow Mary’s gentle guidance to help you call all of the pieces of you back, like a lantern in a window.”
SAMANTHA
How The Sanctuary Flows
Each week, you receive a beautiful basket of rituals, inspiration, and little luxuries.
The Sanctuary follows a rhythm of weekly touch points to infuse your life with a continual frequency of beauty, meaning, and magic.
Monthly Embodied Living Workshops with Mary (Live)
Each month begins with a garden party workshop and ritual – a chance to sip, learn, and root into the rhythm of the month ahead.
Mary’s workshops offer practical tips, soulful wisdom, and luxurious feminine presence practices to nurture the sanctuary of your home, body, mind, and spirit.
Each month we gather to mark time, not just by calendars and clocks, but by savoring life through the seasons and the senses.
Weekly Community Embodiment Practices (Live)
Each week we gather for a 30-minute, live experience of communal Feminine Presence Practice. It is a chance to move your body, be guided in a live beauty treatment, and generally party with the present moment alongside Mary and your fellow Sanctuaryettes.
Expect a mix of deep exhales, soulful movement, belly laughs and beauty lessons, and more moments of connection and joy that members report, change the direction of their entire day.
The Weekly Charm: Lessons & Practice Library for a More Luxurious Life
A members-only collection of practical lessons and soulful rituals, where mindfulness meets luxurious living.
A few examples from the library include:
✨ Velvet Wind Down BedtimeYoga Ritual
🌺 Body in Bloom Guided Meditation
🕯️How To Create Luxurious Living Spaces
🌙 Cultivating A Gilded Mindset
🌿 Sacred Skincare Morning Facial Routine
…and many more gems to support your own at-home practice of embodiment, relaxation, and delight.
Bonus Love Notes, Treasures, + Little Luxuries
Each week, you’ll receive a personal love note from Mary—written just for your senses and your spirit—along with tiny treasures to nourish your pleasure. Think curated playlists, artisanal finds, beloved book rec’s, beauty rituals, and other delights to enchant your everyday.
Our Weekly Rhythm
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Monday: Love Note + Charm of The Week
A soft landing for your Monday—a love note to spark your spirit, and a guided audio or video ritual practice, done together in community, to weave more soft presence and sweet pleasure into your week.
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Wednesday: Live 30-Minute Sanctuary Spa
A weekly, 30-minute live experience of guided movement, glowing beauty ritual, seasonal wisdom, and kindred community with Mary and your fellow Sanctuaryettes.
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Friday: Journaling Prompt & Little Luxury
A sweet, simple close to your week: a weekend journaling prompt wrapping up the week’s theme, and a tiny luxury to delight your body spirit, including Mary’s personal collection of playlists, artisanal treasures, and more.
Browse Our Upcoming Workshops
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May: Blooming Into Magnetism
As spring blossoms to her peak, this workshop will teach you ways to follow nature’s wisdom to grow your magnetism.
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June: Sacred Curves
This month we honor the body as a temple of the sacred, and explore a rounder, curvier, approach to embodying our sacred spark and enjoying the skin we’re in.
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July: The Flirtatious Fork
‘Tis the season of ripe fruits, grilled veggies and picnic blankets–a perfect time to tune your tastebuds to the sensual joy of simple food, and reclaim your kitchen as oasis of creativity and pleasure.
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August: Powder Your Nose, Polish Your Spirit
This month we explore one an often overlooked portal to presence and pleasure by fine-tuning your rituals of pampering and preparing, to greet the day feeling radiant and relaxed.
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September: Feathering Your Nest for Autumn
As the days grow shorter and the air chills, this workshop will teach you how to curate your home into a cozy nest of warmth and comfort.
Annual Member Bonus Benefits
Join annually and you’re receive a special savings, plus these three special benefits
Soothing, Seasonal At-Home Retreats
Savor + celebrate the seasons through your senses
Each season offers new joys to taste and new beauty to behold. Our seasonal virtual retreats are a chance to press pause, gather up the gold of the season past, and plan your enjoyment of the season ahead.
90-minutes • April, June, October + December
The Art of Self Massage
Where self-love meets your own two hands.
With 8 on-demand videos guiding you through soothing massage rituals for the face, neck, chest, belly, legs, feet, and head, you’ll learn how to melt tension, awaken your senses, and tune in more deeply to your body’s needs and wants through exquiste touch.
“If you’re looking for a way to slow down and be saturated in life's wonder, The Sanctuary is it.”
“I came to the Sanctuary looking for an oasis, a moment in the shade, and a relief for my soul. I found a treasure trove of trinkets with endless possibility for delight and satiation. I have so much more reverence for my body and my inner wisdom - exactly as I am. If you’re looking for a way to slow down and be saturated in life's wonder, The Sanctuary is it.”
Nadee Guy
“Being in The Sanctuary supports my body, spirit, emotions and mind. Through the movement, sensual practices and creativity Mary offers, I have found myself able to engage life with a zest I thought I had lost. Every time I visit, it’s like being in a fluffy nest where I remember how to be deeply present.
If you are looking to embrace your feminine, sensual nature then I would say The Sanctuary is calling you. Take the opportunity to become the woman waiting within you.”
MAYA
“I’ve reconnected with a zest I thought I’d lost.”
“I now know how my nervous system can and should feel.”
“Leaving a demanding job I had worked at for a very long time, I knew I needed the type of renewal Mary’s work offers — slowing down the mind, tuning into the body, and cultivating the gifts of the feminine.
The Sanctuary is an antidote to the way modern life demands so much. The embodiment underlying everything, Mary’s inspired way of expressing her ideas, and the thoughtfully designed sessions - it feels like a garden of understanding, wisdom and calm.”
PKM
Presence is the gateway to the richness we long for.
To the wisdom we search for.
To the connection we crave.
To the beauty we seek.
To the fulfillment we strive for.
Presence gets easier with practice.
If you’re ready to let more of life move through you, instead of rush past you…
Your seat at the garden party awaits.
Say Yes To The Sanctuary
Tea Rose Monthly Membership
$95/month
A flexible way to join, one month at a time
Live Monthly Embodied Living Workshops with Mary
Live Weekly Embodiment Practices
Weekly, Charmed Feminine Presence Practices
Weekly “Little Luxuries” (love notes, prompts, playlists, and more)
The On-Demand Presence Practice Garden
An Intimate Private Community Space (connect with Mary and members around the world)
X Annual Member Benefits:
X Save $190
X 4 Seasonal Retreats
X The Art of Self Massage Course
Wild Rose Annual Membership: $1140
$950
Enjoy a year of The Sanctuary and save $190
Receive additional benefits like seasonal retreats and bonus courses
Live Monthly Embodied Living Workshops with Mary
Live Weekly Embodiment Practices with Mary
The Weekly Charm Presence Practices
Weekly “Little Luxuries” (love notes, prompts, playlists, and more)
The On-Demand Practice Garden
An Intimate Private Community Space (connect with Mary and members around the world)
💐 Plus Bonus Annual Member Benefits
✓ Save $190
✓ Four Seasonal Celebration Retreats
✓ The Art of Self Massage Course
FAQ’s
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If you identify as a feminine being (which may include women, non-binary folks, trans and genderqueer folks, folks assigned male at birth but wanting to explore their femininity) you’re welcome here! If you have any questions we’re here to help at hello@schoolofsensualliving.com
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We don’t offer scholarships, but we do offer a Resource Redistribution Rate for those who identify as BIPOC, Gender Variant, Sexy Sage (Over the age of 65), Folks with Disabilities, or Single Parent. We also offer this rate to those who live in countries where there is a -3.0 or more difference in the exchange of currency to USD.
Offering this rate is an effort towards the redistribution of resources to those don't experience the same level of privilege as folks who are white, cisgender, able bodied, heteronormative, etc.
We are sorry but we do not have a financial hardship rate available at this time.
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Our weekly format looks like this:
Tuesday Inspiration (3-minutes) : An email including quotes, book recommendations, recipes, etc., to give you some mid-week inspiration.
Thursday Live Embodiment Practice (30-minutes)
Friday Gem with Podcast & Ritual (about 10-20 minutes)
Monthly Enchantment Circles (45-minutes)
All together, if you participate in every moment of the Sanctuary fully, it adds up to about an hour/week.
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We think of growth and mental health like a house: therapy provides the foundation for a safe and steady space, personal growth provides the furnishings.
The safety and well being of our community members is our top priority. Mindfulness can be supportive, and it can also be triggering when there is active trauma on board. Personal growth containers are not a substitute for therapy, and can sometimes distract from the very important foundational work of therapeutic healing.
Therefore, if you are experiencing a time of instability, serious depression and/or anxiety, or are actively recovering from serious trauma or PTSD, we gently suggest that you not join the Sanctuary until you feel you are in a place of stability.
Mary is a certified Feminine Embodiment Coach, which is a trauma sensitive method of coaching. It is not, however, trauma centric, and is not indicated for the direct healing or resolution of trauma.
If you are in a recovery process, we may ask for a note from a therapist confirming that it is safe to participate in a coaching container before joining.
We wish you and all humans grace and support on the journey of healing. If you have any questions on this or any of our policies, please reach out to hello@schoolofsensualliving.com.
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We host our live events at different times each month so that a variety of time zones can participate. You can check out our calendar for the current season here.
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You 'betcha. All live gatherings will be recorded and available in the online Sanctuary Library.
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We do not offer refunds for month to month purchases, but you can cancel anytime before the 30 day renewal mark, and you will not be charged again.
If you purchase the annual or seasonal membership (yay! welcome!) and after 7 days you feel the experience is not for you, you can request a refund for your purchase amount, less a 10% processing/admin fee.
A Love Note From My Heart To Yours
Dear One,
For the first half of my life, I was tangled in the same story so many women carry: that presence and pleasure were a frivolous waste of time, that there were more real and important things to focus on.
But what could be more real and important than knowing who we are, what delights us, and how we can ripple that radiance throughout our lives and our world?
Looking back, every time I abandoned myself in the name of doing, achieving and perfecting, I distanced myself from the only real, valuable contribution I have: the power of my presence.
Since before we are even born, the world tells women what we’re here for, who we’re meant to serve, what roles we should play, and how grateful we should be for it — even if it deadens the very spark of who we are and what we want.
So we numb out, we silence our body’s whispers, bury our intuition, and deny the parts of ourselves that feel the most true and real.
It is time for women to come to our senses.
Coming To Your Senses is a process of waking up the sleeping self who learned to numb in order to survive — and inviting her to feel again, to speak again, to come back to life.
What I’ve come to know, and what I want you to know, is this - delight is not a luxury, it’s a compass home to most radiant, magnetic power.
The things your heart truly loves are breadcrumbs back to you.
That’s why I created The Sanctuary, not as another program to improve yourself, but as a a place to remember how to enjoy yourself.
A place where you get to release what feels heavy, and invite in what feels nourishing.
To invite small, simple moments that reawaken the woman who knows who she is, what she wants, and what she’s here for, through the great seduction of savoring life through her senses.
When you choose to stop rushing through life, and open up to let life rush through you, you become magnetic in a way no amount of hustling can match.
Come make the garden of your days bloom again — with color, fragrance, beauty, and presence… one feminine practice at a time.
(Gently patting the seat next to me on a garden bench.)
You can sit with us,
Mary
Your presence is the most interesting thing about you.
Come infuse your life with the richness, radiance, and mangetism of feminine presence.